You may ask  how can a man being a “nice guy”  make him be a bad person? If we aren’t nice guys, then we must be bad guys,  right?, but  that’s not good either.In this article i show you habits that nice guys should stop right away if they are to reach there full potential as men and also maintain attraction in there relationship.

Dr. Glover defines a Nice Guy as “a man who tries to seek the validation of those around him and attempts to please others to gain favor and be liked by them, so much so that he hides who he is in an attempt to have his needs met and he describes men who suffer from such  to be having  “Nice Guy Syndrome,”

Does this sound familiar to you too? I am most certainly a recovering Nice Guy  myself, and for many years I looked for validation and acceptance from others, particularly women. I spent so much time pursuing ladies and attempting to be what I thought they (and any other person) needed me to be.. But that’s just no way to live.

Here are the Five Nice guy habits you should stop right away

1. STOP SEEKING THE APPROVAL OF OTHERS

In life you may find yourself in a trap of trying to  get everybody to like you, and also trying to make everybody
happy. As you grow older, you will quite often understand that well, you can’t make everyone blissful and
you can’t be everything to all individuals. Indeed, if you attempt to do that, you will never be
perfect enough for anyone.The nice guys need to quit trying to please everyone.
Our worth is determined by our own decisions about who we want to be in life, not by what other people think of us.
We give up our authority when we try to obtain the approval of others because we are letting them determine who we are.

Pleasing others is like sex: When we do it because we really want to, it’s a wonderfully life-affirming way to strengthen a relationship, but when it’s motivated by obligation, powerlessness, or calculated advantage, it’s the very definition of degrading. The key to an authentic emotional life, like the key to an authentic sex life, is to follow your real desires.

Being a rich guy doesn’t entitle you to put up with ladies or society at large looking down on you.
Stop those behaviors to reach your greatest potential and stop holding yourself back from being who you truly are.

2. Stop agreeing with everyone and everything

By this, I’m not saying go ahead and disagree with everybody but rather to know you opinions can be right too. Feel free to express your viewpoint at any moment. Simply because you don’t want to offend anyone does not mean that you have to remain silent, be quiet, or follow the crowd.Disagreement is OK.

And when you disagree with someone, it’s not something that should be an argument. You can actually agree to disagree. You can actually disagree without pulling out guns and knives and being at each other‘s throats.If you frequently find yourself in agreement with everyone, your individuality may be suffering.

Stop being a nice guy.

3. SAYING YES to everyone’s requests thus allowing EXPLOITATION.

Being a “YES guy” is almost never a good thing; especially, when saying “YES” to individuals who push us to do things we don’t want to do only to prolong  inevitable unhappiness.

I firmly believe that setting boundaries in the areas of work, friendships, and romantic relationships is a crucial component of living our best lives.
Say no to things that won’t improve your life and yes to things that will improve both your environment and the environment of others around you.